Life is full of errors. On a daily basis, we do something wrong. Left the milk to boil too long, sent in the wrong emoji, didn’t have your meds. But these are small things that don’t hurt anyone (much). Every once in awhile, we make mistakes that can hurt us or others. These mistakes then, begin to matter. We become conscious of the consequences.
Till here the process is pretty sorted. Make mistake -> See bad consequence -> Don’t want to feel bad again.
Yet, more often than not, some mistakes we continue to make. Why? Why is it that when we decided to not be angry again, do we suddenly burst out with anger? Why is it that when the situation is tense, our resolutions fall through? It’s often because we don’t know how to learn from our mistakes. In the process listed above, we have a problem, we have a consequence. We don’t have a solution. And that makes sense. Solutions are hard work. They require mental and physical effort.
If there was a solution though the process would look a lot like
Make Mistake -> See bad consequence -> Solution -> Don’t feel bad again.
The solution, though not a one glove fits all, but a medium size that almost fits all. Learning a from a mistake requires you to deconstruct it, see different triggers and components and then practice the solution. So the complete process looks a lot like this.
Make Mistake -> See bad consequence -> Introspect and break down mistake -> Practice Solution -> Don’t feel bad again
Learning from your mistakes is an active process of control and repetition. Control your natural urges, practice your preferred response.