What to Hold On To and What to Let Go

“Hold onto all the beauty you’ve ever felt, but let go of all the pain it caused.”

Every passing day, I make several choices.  Some good, some not so good; some substantial, some frivolous. But almost every decision stems from a basic idea – to hold on or to let go.  Should I hold on to the situation, the people, the emotions or do I let go? Do I hold on to what is said and done, or, to what could or could not be or, do I let go? This choice is at the crux of most decisions and I wondered if others felt the same. Turns out, they do.  What should we hold on to and what should we let go? How do you decide what is important to keep and what isn’t? How can we decide which battles should we pick? Here, I talk about just that- what to hold onto and what to let go.

But almost every decision stems from a basic idea – to hold on or to let go

Let go of –

Everything that’s holding you back – Your fears, your insecurities, people. Letting go isn’t easy, but then nothing good is. Let go of everything that holds you back and makes you stay or stop when you don’t want to.  Because if you stay, you never know what you didn’t see and where you didn’t go.

All your doubts in your heart – “Will I make it?”, “Can I do it?”’, “Is this too hard?” Yes, you will make it, yes you can do it. Yes, it is hard, but it’s not too hard. You are often your biggest critic. Cut yourself some slack, take a chance on yourself and take the plunge.

Cut yourself some slack, take a chance on yourself and take the plunge.

Everything you’re scared of – What people will say, what others will think, what the outcome will be, will it be just as you planned it. Well, the future is not right now, so work on right now. The fear of tomorrow shouldn’t manifest today. What people say, is up to them, not you. What others’ think, is their mentality and morals, not yours. What the outcome will be, you’ll never know till you actually work on it.

The fear of tomorrow shouldn’t manifest today. What people say, is up to them, not you. What others’ think, is their mentality and morals, not yours

The failures you’ve seen – Be it in school, college, jobs, whatever, a failure is temporary. The situation is temporary. Failure happens and at some point in life, it’ll knock you hard.  Let go of it. It’s a thing that happened. It’s a thing that hurt, but it’s a thing you need to let go.

The haters – Because that’s all they do. No matter what you do or don’t do, someone will hate it. Someone, somewhere will tell you that you aren’t good enough. Someone will always be there to tell you that you didn’t do it well enough.

Hold on to-

The good stuff – The rain when it splatters, the puddles, the flowers that blossom, your happy place, your favorite food, the things you love. Everything you love, makes you feel alive. It’s where you belong, it’s the little things that make you feel good.

The rain when it splatters, the puddles, the flowers that blossom, your happy place, your favorite food, the things you love

The memories – Good or bad, memories become a part of who we are and how we see ourselves. Hold on to them because they remind you of everything gone by, everything that went right, everything that went wrong and of everything that can be.

The successes you’ve seen – Any success requires work, time and effort. Holding on to your successes make you see the light when the tunnel’s too long. You did it once, you can do it again.  The success reminds you of the joy and pride of an accomplishment. Keep them close and seek inspiration when things don’t look so good.

Your family – It’s possibly the only set of people you’ve known your entire life.  It’s whoever your family may be.  Keep them close. Learn from them, seek support from them, be with them because they are possibly the only people who will be truly happy when you are happy.

The critics you love – Good work is only as good as its’ smallest flaw.  Choose your critics carefully.  Keep your critics close. Learn from what they say. Grown from their criticism.

Good work is only as good as its’ smallest flaw.

Your best friends – You love them and you hate them. But hey, you chose them. Hold on to the friends who have been there through thick and thin. They will be there for the good and bad and for that, hold on to them.

Your ability to love – In a world as cut throat, unhappy and harsh as ours, the ability to love is to be cherished and sometimes hidden. Hold on to it, cherish it, protect it. Love what you love, who you love, and love yourself and your ability to love. Don’t let the harshness of the world make you lose your ability to love.

Hold on to it, cherish it, protect it. Love what you love, who you love, and love yourself and your ability to love.

I’ll see you Saturday. Till then, hold on, let go and be true to yourself.

Love,

sr

 

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