“What good is success if failure was never touched upon?”
Ever wondered what failure looks like? Ever thought what it must be to live a perfect life and never worry about disappointment? To always live at the pinnacle of success? I did and it looked pretty much like ‘The Giver’- a boring, utopian society where no one innovated, no one discovered and no one ever won or lost; where the only motto in life, would be ‘Must Not Fail”.
In reality, “Must Not Fail“ is such an overrated concept. To be perfect, or aim for perfection, is a noble thought, but in reality, it’s a grand scheme to foster imperfection. Too many words? Well, simply said, perfection is overrated. Perfection is different for everybody. No one person or event or situation is perfect.
Perfection is different for everybody. No one person or event or situation is perfect.
This idea that one must not fail is just like the idea of perfection. Failure at some point in life is inevitable and that’s the good part. To give up after failing is bad. Failure is a event, or situation, if you will, in which life doesn’t go exactly as you planned it. Why is that SO BAD? Why do we get so upset if every once in a while, we are reminded that we are human? Life in any case never goes as you plan and that’s the beauty of it! The ability to move on and get over a failure is the most important life lesson you’ll ever need, so if you don’t fail, how do you live? Failure isn’t this grand abstract concept hidden in the depths od the rainbow, it’s a simple process of learning and recognizing patterns and situations and then getting over it and moving on.
Failure is an event, or situation, if you will, in which life doesn’t go exactly as you planned it.
Well, here is how you fail:
You did the best you could – Failure doesn’t evoke an emotion simply because the word sounds bad. Failure is so devastating because you’ve put your heart and soul into something and in return you got nothing. You were left holding the pieces of what could have been and what you wanted it to be.
You didn’t do the best you could – Failure is the regret of what could have been, of how you could have made it better, of everything you could have done right. Regretting the lost opportunity and the failing to make the best of it.
By holding back – You didn’t give it your best. You were lazy, you slacked off, or you just weren’t up to it.
You were too scared – Failure is lacking the courage to take the plunge. Failing to step up to the plate, to do what you should have done.
But then, that isn’t so bad. It’s a process. Failure isn’t bad. As I’ve said before, failures never stop. As a parent, as a child, as a sibling, as an entrepreneur or, whatever your roles in life be, you will be faced with failure. The trick is to not let failure stop you or break your spirit but, to recognize that failure is simply situational. Recognise that the most successful individuals have failed many times before and even during their success stories. Also, failure doesn’t happen to those who don’t try. So chin up, you’re already ahead of the curve.
I’ll see you next Wednesday. Till then, chin up, shoulders proud and look out for my next post.