“Happiness isn’t difficult. It’s implications are. Happiness is subtle, lingering and almost invisible.”
Happiness, like entrepreneurs, seems to be the new superhero on the block. Everyone wants it, wants to be it, wants to have it. And yet, for some reason we don’t. Now, I’ve seen ample “how to be happy” posts and I too, have written a few (oops). But one thing which is so important often goes unnoticed – myths about happiness. With SO.MANY happiness advice columns, it’s no wonder that a few myths arise and take hold of us so firmly that they become reality. This is where I step in and make life a little easier for you. Here are 9 happiness myths decoded.
1. Happiness is not under your control
Happiness is a state of mind and has an effect of your actions. Happy people choose to be happy. They seek out happiness in any situation and learn to be happy irrespective of how they feel.
Happy people choose to be happy
2. You’re happy every day
That would mean you live in Eutopia. No one is happy every day, they choose to be happy whenever they can and make an effort to try to be happy at least 8/10 days. The other two days is basic survival and getting through the day.
3. Your family brings you joy
Your family life can be one the most nerve wrecking and emotionally frustrating journeys you undergo. You love them and yet there are times you hate them. Your family can be a source of happiness but it can not be the only source. Any individuals who are together for long periods of times face conflicts and disagreements and quarrels and so will your family. To be happy, one must overlook these minute details and look at family for what it’s worth, the support it gives you, the confidence, the love and that is what can make you feel happier and more content.
Your family can be a source of happiness but it can not be the only source
4. Ignoring your emotions can make you happier
The more bottled your emotions get, the less likely you are to be happier. The burden of your unresolved emotions are a constant nagging presence that takes away from your today. Instead, confront your emotions as and when they happen and then resolve them to move towards a happier and healthier lifestyle.
5. The perfect Job will make you happy
No job is perfect. It will stressful, bosses will be annoying, time will be limited, in short you will be utilizing every minute of your day at work under pressure. Landing your dream job, may thrill you but even then happiness won’t come from the job, it will instead come from how you handle your job.
6. You need a certain situation to make you happy
A situation is temporary. Good, bad or ugly, it will, at some point end. Situations don’t make for happy occasions, they may give you an added reason to be happy, but they don’t dictate your happiness. A good situation can definitely make you happier than you are, the baseline however, is often set by you.
A good situation can definitely make you happier than you are, the baseline however, is often set by you.
7. I’ll be happy if I’m young
Age is well, a number. How original. I know. Any age will come with its own set of goals, struggles, disappointments, failures and successes. Your age determines nothing but how old your organs are.
8. I’ll be happy when I’m rich
If that was the case, every millionaire would be happy and every billionaire would be the happiest person going. Money definitely makes it easier to acquire goods and services. Good restaurants, fancy cars, designer clothes, can make us want to be rich (and maybe famous) but they don’t guarantee happiness. Money will guarantee quantities in life but it can’t guarantee a better state of mind or happiness.
Money will guarantee quantities in life but it can’t guarantee a better state of mind or happiness.
9. Once I’m happy I’ll always be happy
Now, THAT is one big fat lie. Happiness, disappointment, anger, jealousy are all a part and parcel of life. All emotions are equally important but happiness makes life a little easier and much nicer. The emphasis on happiness is suddenly a norm because now a days we tend to find more reasons to be angry, unhappy, disappointed than we do to be happy. So every day is a new day, new set of challenges, new situations and different feelings so happiness is a new journey every day.
Being happy isn’t a necessity in life, it is certainly a nice convenience.
I’ll see you next Wednesday. Till then, be happy, be inspired and sign up to receive my posts by email.